4 common misconceptions about children with lesbian mothers
You want to have a child, but like any parent, you don’t want them to suffer. In this post we uncover the truth about some common misconceptions that unfortunately are still prevalent in some parts of the community:
They will have psychological or adjustment disorders
Throughout your life you may have suffered discrimination and lack of acceptance from society but this has made you stronger. That’s why it’s more likely that you will nurture a strong family with better communication skills where everything is discussed openly. In turn, this will help your children be confident and adapt better to any situation. They will develop a stronger emotional intelligence.
Usually, in same-sexcouples the chores and duties are more equally distributed which makes your child develop a more tolerant and open mind.
In July of this year, a paper published by The New England Journal of Medicine clearly stated that children raised by same-sex couples where in no way different (be it their health, mental or emotional states) than those raised by heterosexual couples. They also don’t develop any behavioural or emotional problems and are not necessarily prone to psychological disorders.
They will miss not having a father figure
It’s unlikely that a child will miss something he’s never had. They will have many female and male figures in their lives: uncles, cousins, grandparents, friends…
The studies don’t show any changes in the development of gender roles in these children for instance, there are no changes in the ways they play.
They will be bullied
Bullying is a reality that emotionally affects many children. Some kids bully others for different reasons such as they wear glasses, are overweight or shy or simply because they don’t want to play…
The fact that your child has two mums won’t be any special reason for other children to bully them. It may be that these kids parents have a harder time understanding your situation than the kids themselves…
They will be homosexual too
Of course, that is a possibility. But it won’t be any higher just because they have two lesbian mums, this won’t skew their sexual orientation any which way. Surely this will give them a more open and tolerant attitude towards diversity.
No one should care if a child has a father and mother, a father, a mother, two fathers or two mothers. We are all people and we teach our children values and above all love. Society is always moving forwards which mean soon all these common misconceptions will be a thing of the past.